3. An orgasm
…. Ummm, if you’re hitting 30 and haven’t had an orgasm then something is WRONG!!! You’re thinking too much, making bad choices in men that can’t work it out of you, or just plain lazy. Now I’m not a freak but when I want an orgasm I’m getting it, with or without his help. So I need to replace this goal with something else… maybe something a little freaky… maybe a fantasy or two…
#3
HAVE SEX ON A BEACH, IN AN AIRPLANE, AND/OR …. UMM YEA, I’LL TAKE SUGGESTIONS FOR THE LAST OPTION. 
THIS…..
NOT THIS….
Now I love sex, I scream and talk, give the reaction I’m feeling to keep the fun going… but I can become complacent. A lot of times you get stuck in sort of a routine… same moves but different feeling and outcomes keep it good. But sometimes I want more… maybe I can add that, being more aggressive with sex. I naturally want the man to lead or just tell me what you want me to do. Only when I’m horny or feeling extra sexy will I just take charge and ravish the dude. I need more of that. yeah…
… So does any of the fellas have any suggestions? Any of the ladies feel the same as I do? It’s sex, yall like to talk about sex, let’s talk.
#2.
A WEEKLY INCOME THAT COVERS THE RENT (OR A MORTGAGE PAYMENT)
Now considering my goals for this upcoming performance review in February for the year 2009… I should be well above this by age 30, after taxes. But that’s taking in consideration that I’m still working for this company, in this dept (cause I don’t know how well other dept’s compensate), and I maintain the average increases I’ve been getting the past 3 years. That’s if I’m still here… which I don’t plan to be by age 30. By age 30 I want to be self employed working for myself, running a succesful business or maybe plural — businesses. So if that’s the case then I need to get on my grind for real. CristionSmith needs to be my focus after the education and well-being of my son. I’ve already discovered so many avenues to include in the business for growth that I’m mistakenly loosing my original focus which is handbags! LOL. But I’m going to do what I need to do to get it off the ground, provide merchandise that people will love, and create a greater appreciation in the community for handcrafted items. Artisanship.
#2 is achieveable, it’s just up to me to stay motivated and focused.
“1. Clothes that fit the size she is now, not the size she was five years ago”
… Well I was pregnant 5 years ago sooooo, I’ma have to change this one up…
#1
TO HAVE A DEFINITIVE PERSONAL STYLE AND GRACE.
Now I like trends and style and fashion but I can get a bit eccentric, to plain jane, to sex pot. I am too many extremes based on my mood. So by 30 I need to have a personal style that is consistent but still unique to my character. Something that screams eccentric chic with just a hint of sexy… yea, I’ma need to start on that now! lol
*** This is a post I created for the blog on my business site which hasn’t launched yet, so I’d thought I’d share here as well 
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This season is all about accessories and if you’re like me you still don’t want to over do it. Wearing elaborate and lavish bracelets will say enough. Keep it simple and still chic.
1. WhiteHouse BlackMarket Hematite Mesh Stretch Bracelet $48
2. R.J. Graziano Zig-Zag Cuff Bracelet $115
3. BananaRepublic Sunset bracelet comes in black or gold $25
4. Juicy Couture Multi-Chain Bracelet $118
So I was over a Frisky.com and ran into a reposting of this article 30 before 30… 30 Things Every Woman Should Have Before She Turns 30. Now I’ve seen other things to do lists on other blogs and have always wanted to make my list, especially do it now since I have 3 1/2 years to get it done. So I think the Month of November will be a great time to create my 30 Things I Have to Have and Do Before I Turn 30… Yay!!! And it gives me a post for everyday of the month! Never before achieved or even strived for before lol.
So just for today, here’s the link and list from Frisky.com… Any ladies out there agree or have anything to add???? I like #’s 5, 6, 8, 18, 20, 21, 23, 28, & 29.
30 Things Every Woman Should Have Before She Turns 30
Posted by: Wendy Atterberry
1. Clothes that fit the size she is now, not the size she was five years ago
2. A weekly income that covers the rent (or mortgage payment)
3. An orgasm
4. Always enough toilet paper
5. A hair stylist she trusts
6. A favorite song, porn site, image, movie or fantasy that always gets her in the mood
7. Health insurance
8. A signature drink
9. A healthy relationship with her parents
10. Bras in the correct size
11. Enough alcohol in her home to offer drop-by guests a cocktail
12. An emergency hangover remedy
13. A voter registration card
14. A wardrobe that includes the perfectly flattering little black dress, a great pair of heels, jeans that make her ass look great, and a cute hat that hides a bad hair day
15. A yearly appointment with her gynecologist
16. The name of reliable movers to give her friends when they ask for help relocating
17. The gumption to ask a man out
18. A group of girlfriends who get it
19. A set of tools (and the ability to use them … even if it’s just to hang a piece of art)
20. A balanced checkbook
21. No interest in men who just aren’t that into her
22. A vacation to look forward to at least once a year
23. A good bulls**t detector
24. The courage to stand up for herself and her beliefs
25. A favorite sex position
26. A set of hand towels so guests don’t have dry their hands on her bath towel (gross!)
27. Enough self-love to avoid and break off unhealthy friendships and relationships
28. A commitment to exercise
29. A retirement fund
30. A great vibrator
“Dig a Hole” is one of my favorite Jay Z songs and that’s exactly how I’m feeling persay. I feel like I dug myself into a massive crater of emotions, shoulda woulda coulda’ves, and I’m not strong enough to handle it. All I want to do is curl up and cry. I pray constantly all day for God to just take the pain away, just take it and bury it. I’ve tried to keep myself busy, occupy my mind and that worked at home, not working at work. I ran up and down my stairs for 20 minutes last night, talked to my best female friend, made another scarve and watched a lot of TV. One thing I’m proud of myself for not doing is drinking. I did wake up at 2 am and I had an automatic impulse to call him but then realized the reason I was feeling bad was because of him. Now don’t take that negative. I’m not mad at him, just the situation and my stupidity for letting my emotions lead my actions for almost the last two years. So at 2am I cried for the first time since our phone call yesterday, but I’ve cried everyday for the last week. What hurts the most is that I’ve lost what had become my best friend, the person I confided in, the man I wanted to share my life with. But he didn’t feel as sure as I did and that is that. I feel stupid for allowing to let myself love someone who I wasn’t in a committed relationship with. That’s my fault and I take full responsibility. And what hurts even more is that this is the first time I’ve allowed someone into who I am completely. My fault.
So how do I go on? I’ve lost the one man I’ve loved completely, whether he understood how deep and true it was or not. How do you go from a life of having a “companion,” that one person you want to hang out with the most, the one you call throughout the day, the one you want to beside you in the morning. It’s lonely as hell and I don’t know what to do… besides cry.
… I feel like shit.
I’m so feeling this… below is a post from one of my fav blogs Single Black Man in NoVA, plus he’s a Smith ;-D. I had to share.
Oct 26, 2009
Lessons Learned……. from Single Black Man in NoVA by Shawn Smith
I always believe that in each failed relationship, we learn lessons.What those lessons are, are always different. I’ve learned many lessons in my dating life.
Lately I’ve learned more on patience, communication, aggressiveness, being more open, being more understanding, and a couple more things.
I was on the phone with Mama Smith on my way home tonight. I told her that I’ve come to the fact that I may not find the type of woman I’m looking for.
I told someone that I’m looking for a wife. They told me that I’m looking for the kind of wife that I want. If that’s the case, then with each failed relationship my idea of the kind of wife I’m looking for becomes more and more detailed. Which means it becomes more and more less likely I’ll find her.
I found this artcile on Yahoo! Shine and I really love some of the advice. I’m trying to budget better but it’s so easy to whip out your debit card and use your extra cash. Hope these tips are helpful to you too.
20 moves to simplify your finances
By Mary Hunt via Womans Day
I know what you’re thinking: simplify and finances in the same sentence? Ha! Like that’s even possible when we have credit cards, bank accounts, bills, bill-paying options, fees, penalties and interest rates to keep track of! How can we possibly make our finances simple? By knowing the right tricks. Choose to become accountable, then use every tactic you can to streamline—and destress— your financial life. If you can pare things down in the following areas, you’re well on your way.
Spending
1. Use cash. When you’re paying for things like groceries, gas, and other routine items, there’s nothing easier. You can’t overdraft it, and you won’t have to worry about fees and interest. Once it’s spent, that’s it. Done.
2. Organize with envelopes. I’ve said it before, but I’ll say it again: This is quite possibly the most effective money management technique. Get a stack of envelopes and label one for each of the ways you’ll be spending your cash (“food,” “gas” and so on). Place the amount you’re going to spend for the week in each envelope and stash them in a safe place. There—you’ve got a spending plan.
3. Use a gift card. Most retailers, even supermarkets and gas stations, offer gift cards these days. Let’s say you intend to spend $400 for groceries this month. Buy a card in that amount from your supermarket and use it as you would a debit or credit card during the month. If you stick with it, you’re guaranteed to stay on budget.
4. Track your charges, too. Whenever you use a credit or debit card, take 30 seconds to record that transaction in the same way you record the checks you write. (That money’s already spent, right?) Enter it in red ink. Later, when your bank statement or Visa bill arrives, you’ll be able to quickly double-check the red entries.
5. Put kids on a budget. For most families, kids plus money equals a big black hole. Bring sanity to the situation by determining a set amount for each child per month and making a cash envelope with that child’s name on it. It’s up to you whether you or the child manages that money. When it’s gone, no more spending until the next fill-up.
6. Get tech-y The secret to living within your means is to keep track of your spending. At Wesabe.com, Geezeo.com or Mint.com you can get a clear picture of your finances and create a budget. These sites are free, but you do need to enter your personal financial information.
Mvelopes.com, a similar site, offers more privacy and beefed-up features for a monthly fee. Or try software like You Need a Budget or Quicken, which allows you to download your information to your hard drive ($40 to $60).
Banking
7. Use direct deposit. If you haven’t already, arrange with your employer to have your paycheck deposited directly into your bank account. No more lost or misplaced paychecks, and the money reaches your account even if you can’t get to the bank. The real payoff: Many banks and credit unions offer free or lower-cost checking for customers with direct deposit.
8. Get overdraft protection. If you overspend your account, your bank or credit union can choose whether or not they want to pay the amount. If you haven’t arranged for overdraft protection and they decide to cover your mistake (called “courtesy overdraft”), you’ll pay $30 or more for each item they cover plus a daily fee—say, $5 for every day your account is overdrawn. If the bank chooses not to cover the amount, they’ll charge you $30 or more, plus the merchant will most likely charge you an additional $25.
Overdraft protection links the account either to your savings account, a line of credit or a credit card to cover any overcharges you make. You’ll pay a fee of around $5 to transfer money from your savings to cover the problem. If you use an overdraft line of credit you’ll also pay interest, but it will be a lot less than the bank’s courtesy coverage.
If you prefer to put your own overdraft plan into place, keep a secret $100 or more in your account and exclude it from your current balance. If you make a careless error in the future, you’ll be covered.
9. Hover online. You already check your email, Facebook and other sites at least once a day. Why not add your bank account to the routine? Once you register at your bank’s site, you’ll be able to get current account information.
Bill Paying
10. Make a calendar. Add bill due dates to your everyday calendar. That way if a bill doesn’t show up in the mail for some reason, you’ll still know exactly when it needs to be paid.
11. Change your due dates. Take another look at your calendar: Do you want those dates spread out evenly, or would it be better for them to coincide? You decide, then see if your creditors will change them accordingly—most credit card companies are happy to comply. (Be aware that if you carry a balance on your card, pushing the due date back a few days will result in a onetime adjustment to your next bill, because finance charges will continue to accrue.)
12. Sign up for auto–bill pay. Many people already do this with their insurance premiums, utilities, mortgage and even student loans. They sign a document agreeing to have the payment deducted from their checking accounts. This does not preclude the need to manage, check and verify that the amounts deducted are correct, but it is a good way to make sure your bills are paid on time. You’ll also avoid paying postage, and you may get a lower interest rate on your student loan or mortgage (they could knock off .25% if you agree to set up automatic payment).
13. Pay online. This isn’t automatic— here you’re the one making the payment. Instead of using a paper check, go online to your bank account and pay bills electronically. The money will be immediately deducted from your available balance. It’s neat and efficient.
Plastic
14. Slim down your wallet. You know it can be detrimental to your credit score to close credit card accounts, but that doesn’t mean you have to carry all that plastic! Figure out which card you really need to keep with you, then stash the rest in a safe, secure place. Enjoy the simplicity of using just one card.
15. Manage store discount cards. Many retailers have some kind of frequent-buyer club card, which is great…but boy, can they weigh down your wallet or key ring. KeyRingThing.com offers a clever way to consolidate up to six of your loyalty cards into one for free. There’s a quick demo video on the site that explains how this works. You’ll be impressed.
16. Log on daily. As with your bank accounts, you need online access to each of your credit card accounts. Then check them every day. This may take a few minutes, but that’s the level of care you need to stay well below your credit limit and to catch any irregularities—like mystery fees, purchases you didn’t make—before they become a problem later on.
Planning
17. Prep for taxes. If you dread doing taxes, take away your fear with a handy set of file folders or a single accordion file. Hang on to the receipts you collect during the day (jot a note on the ones that might be deductible), then slip them into the appropriate slots. If you make this a habit, all you’ll need is about 15 minutes to pull the information together to file your taxes next year.
18. Make a will. If you haven’t already done this, stop putting it off! At the very least, you need a will and a Health Care Power of Attorney (sometimes referred to as a Health Care Proxy), which authorizes a person you name to make health care decisions for you if it becomes necessary. And if you have minor children, you need to name a guardian. It’s a simple process that will pay back with peace of mind. To learn more, check out LegalZoom.com and Nolo.com, or make an appointment with an attorney who specializes in end-of-life issues.
19. Scan to CD. Could you put your hands on all your important papers? Even if you know where they are, chances are your insurance policies, birth certificates and tax records are scattered about. Make life easier by taking time to scan all of your documents into your computer, then store them on CDs. Keep a copy for yourself and send one to a trusted friend or relative.
A few tech notes first: Be sure to use a desktop, not a laptop— the last thing you want is for your laptop to get lost or stolen with all of your personal info on it! And when it comes time to replace your computer, erase everything first.
20. Eat on the Cheap. This month your assignment is to create at least ten $5 dinners for your family. (We’re talking the entire meal, not just the entrée—for $5 or less for a family of four.) Impossible? Not at all, says Erin Chase, founder of 5dollardinners.com. Once you get started, you’ll be surprised what you can make. Do a quick calculation of how much you normally would have spent for those dinners, deduct $50 ($5 x 10 dinners = $50) and pop the rest into your WDSaves savings account. How simple!
Anyone who knows me knows that I am the pickiest eater ever. If there is one itsy bitsy food in anotherwise delicious dish, I will not eat. But I’m getter better… at least I’d like to think so. Now on my way to trying… yes trying being the opertune word… to eat better, I love when I find articles like this cause I’m also trying to cook more. Now most of these foods I don’t mind… meaning I’m not a huge fan but I’ll eat them. The other few are a hell no. So of course I have to share, that’s what I do best.
25 Top Heart-Healthy Foods
WebMD Feature
From asparagus to sweet potatoes to a robust cabernet — every bite (or sip) of heart-healthy foods delivers a powerful dose of phytonutrients that prevent and repair damage to cells. read more…
